Listen up, confused Wesleyan students—help has arrived! You can ask friends, you can ask the ACB, but that wouldn’t be as fun as asking the new Argus advice columnist! Seriously, where else can you get a well thought out, full-paragraph response to all your burning questions? And here’s the best part: it’s all anonymous (duh), so for all those questions you can’t ask your friends (because then they’ll know that you want to break up with your girlfriend), your parents (because you’ll have to tell them that you are failing Calculus II), or the ACB (because no one ever gives a straight answer), you can find your answers here.
So ask your questions, because I am brutally honest and will give you the hard facts: no you shouldn’t live with your friend in HiRise if she wants to raise a family of piglets in the common room, and yes you should have that talk with your parents about questioning your sexuality. Email askargy@gmail.com with all your tough questions and I promise to do my best. The first question is in, but I hope to get many more of your queries in the future!
Dear Argy,
So I have a friend here who I’ve been close with since freshman year. I know she probably expects that I’ll live with her next year when we’re juniors, but I’ve already made plans with other people who she doesn’t really know. How/when do I tell her that I’m not going to live with her next year and make sure our friendship stays intact?
-Housing Is The Bane Of My Existence.
Dear Housing,
The GRS season is upon us so your problem is a common one. First, you need to make sure you don’t make any kind of promise to her, even a vague one, about living together. While she may assume you are living together, if you haven’t made any specific plans, then this isn’t a terrible friend-move. You are allowed to make decisions about what is best for you even if it isn’t what your friend thinks is best. However, if you want to stay friends you need to be sensitive to her feelings. The bottom line is: are you screwing her over? It is still February, so she has time to form a group with other friends. But the later it gets, the more people will be set in their groups and the more you will actually be jeopardizing her housing options. So tell her now. Just be honest, but tactful. Don’t make up some crazy story, because she will probably find out the truth. Sit her down and say you’ve talked with other friends about living together. Remind her that it’s not because you don’t want to live with her (maybe this is a lie but don’t get into it—too messy). As long as you haven’t promised her anything and it’s not April, then I think she will understand.
Much Love,
Argy
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