Dear Alix and Iris,
I had to wait a couple of days to write this Wespeak so that I could cool down, collect my thoughts and respond in a coherent and considerate manner because there are some issues that should be straightened out.
First things first… Iris, that night there was no Hawai’i-themed party and the Beta brothers have never been involved in one. That happened a while back and it was thrown by a separate fraternity. You did say what you wrote about coming to X-house. However, you said that directly to me when we were having a quiet, one-on-one conversation. Later, when tensions rose, you screamed, “Come to X house and see what happens.” Instead of denying your misstep, you should have apologized. And when you write ‘yells and threats’ I don’t know what you are referring to. No one threatened you. I did mention without yelling that I would call public safety (not the cops, Alix) if you and your friends did not leave, because people at my house felt threatened. You came to MY living space, searched ME out, lectured and attempted to coerce ME for hours, but you felt threatened? That is just not a fair accusation and it shows a mean-spirited character that is willing to lie and slander in order to “misrepresent” me as some verbally abusive misogynist racist. Thanks a lot, that’s really productive.
I felt offended all night long, but I listened, and tried to cooperate and understand. A lot of what was said had me rethinking my prior position on the race-themed parties. In fact, I think that I have changed my mind considerably even after all of the rude remarks and jokes at my expense. I asked Kendra if she wanted a beer from inside, and she said no, because she thought I was going to roofie her. Are you serious? Iris said that all the girls that were at my house were “stupid bitches.” I was told that my whole life was meaningless unless I was changed completely by a couple of people. The whole time I listened and did not argue or get angry. But I had been searched out for a reason. Accusations HAD to be made against me and a fight HAD to ensue for the accusers to get any satisfaction. If the point of this conversation had been positive and not combative it may have been productive. This conversation/lecture was initiated by extremely DRUNK people who clearly do not remember the events as they actually happened and were looking for trouble. Well done, you managed to find it.
This is not a case of right and wrong, as you may think. It is a case of unproven, differing perspectives and opinions. There is no room for coercion (even if it is done by the “minority”) because it leads to tyranny and oppression. Would you replace one oppressive regime with another? I am rethinking my stance on a lot of issues and I appreciated the new ideas that were brought to my attention. In the future, I will actively pursue avenues of a more progressive nature. But don’t you ever come to my house, look for me, yell at me, threaten me and then try to turn it around to make me look like the bad guy. Some of you were VERY intoxicated and that is NEVER the time for a serious debate. If you want to talk more feel free to come on over, my door and mind is always open. Have a nice day.
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