I sent the following email to President Roth, the board chair, and the development office. It stands for the proposition that actions have consequences, and I am writing to share it with the entire Wesleyan community. Here is what I wrote:
Your letter seeking a contribution to the Wesleyan Fund has been sitting on my desk since May – I have held it deliberately, awaiting a ruling on the fraternity issue. Your decision mandating coeducation has made my decision on your donation request easy: I just fed it to the shredder.
I have not been a large donor to Wesleyan since my 1975 graduation – that is because I have spent the lion’s share of my career in the public sector, where financial reward was short but job satisfaction was substantial. But that has changed, and I’m pleased that my still-new private sector career as a law firm partner is going quite well.
And now that I can afford to give – indeed, even contemplate including Wesleyan in my estate planning – you have collectively taken an ill-considered and intellectually bankrupt action that I find reprehensible. In the past, I have always defended WesU when others have charged it with possessing a “fascism-from-the-left” mentality; what really stings now is that, this time, those charges are true.
You see, neither I nor my multi-generational band of Wesleyan DKE brothers are rapists. Indeed, with alumni support, Wesleyan DKEs have actually launched substantive problem-solving programs to promote responsible behaviors. They have hit the target; sadly, you have missed it, and missed it by a country mile. Until this decision is reversed, the only financial support I will be sending to a Middletown address won’t be going to Wesleyan; it will be going to the DKE House.
Bruce Tobey is a member of the class of 1975.