I'm pretty sure what Mytheos is saying is be a human first and foremost, and don't let your sexual orientation rule your personality or behavior. This way, if you meet and even become friends with a (closet) bigot, they will literally be "blindsided" by the fact that you are gay when they find out, because of how great (and relatively normal) a person you are. Such an experience is what really makes a person question their beliefs and morals.

Assuming that people do not have the capacity for change is ridiculous. You just have to shed some light upon their ignorance, preferably through their own firsthand experience (mentioned above). It sounds like you just want to throw a big gay temper tantrum and get your way, which is a little immature and naive.

You are in the right as far as I am concerned. In accordance with Jefferson and the founding fathers, all men are created equal, and this issue is unquestionably under one's pursuit of happiness.

I'm not quite sure about the status of Churches, but I like to see everything as a business. If a Church chooses to be a bigoted institution, although they may be cornering the market on bigots, they are giving themselves the "brand" of bigot, and are therefore alienating marginal and gay clientel. Perhaps you should go entrepreneurial on their asses and create a church that allows gay marriage!